Everyone seems to care about numbers these days: how many likes did this get? How many followers do I have? How many new followers did I get? How many does she have?
And it doesn’t stop on social media: How much money do I have? How many friends do I have? How many people has she/he slept with? How many places have they visited?
It doesn’t stop. We compare ourselves in weird quantity all the time. And I’m not devoid of this trap – I did say ‘we.’
Maybe it’s time we shift our perspective: Do I have any relationships with those who ‘follow’ me? Are new followers like minded people I can learn from? She has that many, that’s so great for her!
And in life too: Do I do good things with the money I have? Are my friend loyal and true? Am I? Whether she/he has slept with 40 or 1, can they love me and care for me? Does each place I visit bring me joy and do I fully take it in? Even if it’s only a field of flowers five minutes from my house?
I’m working on this. It’s not easy. It really isn’t. It takes conscious daily focus.
Cardigan – Banjo and Belle
Skirt – Tree of Life
Top – Vintage via Etsy
Sunnies – Simons
Necklace – Threadsence
Boots – Gypsy Found Objects
Marie
July 4, 2018Dear, this is such a beautiful and inspiring post Me too, I am sometimes conscious and keep track of numbers, but this is a really great reminder to just think of the good things and not always competing but to connect. You look beautiful and I love love the skirt!
Marie
The Flower Duet
JoHaughton
July 4, 2018Yeah, I think we all lose focus. It’s so easy to get lost in the comparison and numbers. But I really like to bring myself back to the connections as soon as I catch myself drifting. That’s what it’s all about. 🙂