A girlfriend of mine recently got very upset after reading one of her favorite blogs. Why? Because she confused the perfectly styled pictures and adventures as real life and wondered why her life wasn’t that perfect. People mistake that often. We seem to think that a huge blog is an accurate representation of someone’s life. It isn’t. Especially the blogs that are more fashion magazine inspiration rather than real life dressing. You can’t compare yourself to someone who’s getting perfectly styled, taking amazing shots, and then selling those pieces the next day. It’s clearly not what they wear on a daily basis. You can however, take fashion inspiration from them. And then read the blogs where the people aren’t perfect to get that connection.
I get it though, believe me. I fall victim to the same thing too – just in a different light. I start questioning what I’m doing wrong that my site isn’t as successful. I start questioning my choices, my decisions, and actions. It’s human to self-doubt. It’s times like that, that I step back and take stock. Putting things into perspective. My life isn’t their life. Everyone has their own challenges and I just don’t see theirs. I see the edited life. And comparing myself to someone else is only going to hurt me. Unless, I compare to motivate, to inspire myself. Otherwise, I just need to step away.
And dance. 
Romper – ThreadSence
Sweater – Covet via Trixie
Boots – ShopSosie
Necklace – Lustre Boutique in Montreal
Rings – Tiffany’s and F21
Frannie Pantz
March 11, 2016Um. I totally get this. And ironically my blog post today is about the exact same thing. I think every blogger goes through this sometimes. But like you said, you just gotta keep yourself in check. I have loved and followed your blog for a long time and I am glad that you still blog!
johaughton
March 11, 2016Thanks Frannie. Haha – I think there’s a collective consciousness going around where people are starting to tolerate things a lot less – in a good way. I personally get more inspiration from seeing people’s actual daily style then faux blogs. That’s what I use Vogue for – fantastical inspiration. But blogs – I’m looking for real women wearing real clothes to run around their lives with. You know? Women who can’t get perfectly styled, but do the best with what they have, and women who don’t have the greatest of resources….because frankly, neither do I. And I like to get ideas about how to do things cheaply – artist and all 😉
I also wanted to thank you so much for your support of my site. I’ve appreciated every single comment you’ve ever made. Through the ups and the downs. And I’m so pleased that you continue to read. Like I said, it’s about real connection. Thank you. Hand to heart, thank you.